Tuesday, September 4, 2007

Who Is Your Best Friend In Life?

Friend, who is your best friend in life?

You probably will start thinking who is your closest friend, who is he or she? your classmates, your church mates, etc etc... This is really an interesting question to ask yourself.

I want to specifically talk a little bit about best friend in marriage here.

This question will probably wake up many people when comes to life in marriage. What's your take?

Recently, Pastor Tim just shared about topics in marriage and he revealed one little thing that people always tend to ignore when comes to marriage and being husband and wife. That is really something that i personally is learning from Day 1 when i was courting my girlfriend who is of course my wife now, people who know me long enough will understand that better.

You see, many people got into marriage just because of getting married, or because of any other reasons and later they find themself struggling with their relationship with each other. Isn't that stupid? Sorry, maybe i should find other word, but that's the most suitable word that i can think of now. Why would you want to get into this relationship and start struggling with it? Better Not if you are not ready. That's my view. I am sure many people would disagree with me. Think about that.

But what if you are in the relationship? You must be the best friend of each other! There is really no excuse. That is one of the secret of becoming life long partners and you both will enjoy the companionship much better along the way, no matter what happen. Isn't that simple?

I came across this article in Our Daily Life today, it touches on a real story happened last year September when the "Crocodile Hunter" died. His wife Terri shared in an interview that she lost her "prince" and best friend in life. There is a lot of thing to learn from this little thing, who is your best friend?

Start changing your mindset and relationship today if you are still not the best friend of your wife or husband! It is still not too late.

You may then ask, How to go about doing it?

2 simple tips here,
1. Remind yourself of being the best friend over and over again...because you tend to forget.
2. Have fun together! over and over again...

To your success!

Thomas

1 comment:

Shirlee said...

以此共勉:

灵命日粮 - 2008 年 4 月 10 日


饶恕的挑战

读经: 创世记45章1-15节

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金句: 「你们饶恕人的过犯,你们的天父也必饶恕你们的过犯。」 (马太福音6章14节)

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全年读经: 士师记1-3章 箴言4章1-17节


有一回我和妻子激烈争吵的时候,她竟一针见血地说出了神学观点。当时我们正从属灵的角度讨论到我的一些缺点,而她说:「我竟然能原谅你那些恶劣的行径,这简直就是神迹!」
她这番话准确地指出了饶恕的本质,令我为之一怔。饶恕这件事可不像喷洒空气清净剂那样,只是把某些美好而不切实际的理想散布在这世界上。饶恕是会带来痛楚的一件难事,即使在你已原谅某人之后很长一段时间,那伤口仍存在你的记忆之中。饶恕是一个非自然的举动,而且显然并不公平,所以我妻子才会抗议。

创世记中有个故事,就表现出与此相似的情感。约瑟的兄弟欺凌他、预谋杀他,并将他卖为奴隶,约瑟挣扎着去饶恕他们。虽然约瑟终究克服了坎坷逆境,而现在也一心想要原谅他的哥哥们,但他就是做不到,至少目前还不行。

在我看来,创世记42-45章就像是约瑟在说:「我竟然能原谅你那些恶劣的行径,这简直就是神迹!」到最后,恩典终于占了上风,约瑟满怀悲伤与怜爱的声音传遍了整个宫廷。他为何失声痛哭?那正是一个人饶恕之后所发出的声音。PY


当你不愿饶恕时,
喜乐平安尽丧失;
与神交通也断绝,
心渐坚硬冷如石。D. De Haan


惟有基督不再饶恕你时,你才能不饶恕他人。